Gal pals, girl gang, sisters, squad, whatever term you may use for your ovaries before brovaries this Galentine's day post is dedicated to why female friendships are so important. Before I dive in, I have attached my Galentine's/friend's day (because you can do this anytime of the year and you should) plans to this post, so if you scroll all the way down you will miss a chunk of this awesome post but you'll be getting to some other goodies. My other note before you dive in is that in no way is this post meant to be a hate rant on men, or in other words, what some people think feminism is. This is to acknolwedge the awesomeness that female friendships can be and why we should cherish them. But whilst we are on that feminism topic, if you take anything away from this post remember feminism is driven by wanting equality for the sexes. It is the ideal that just because I am a woman does not make me lesser, a woman can do anything a man can, accept of course experiencing the pain of getting kicked in the nether regions, but we got the pain of periods and child birth. On that note lets talk about the first reason why female friendships are important.
1. Boys Are From Mars, Girls Are From Venus
Lets take it back to 5th grade sex education, you know when they separated the boys and the girls, and you were always curious what the other gender was learning. Biologically men and women are different, I know groundbreaking. But my first point can simply be summed up with that. While I could talk my boyfriends ear off about my cramps and bloating from my period which he can show support, another woman will actually understand the time they were in the fertile position during their period. It is for this reason you call up your girls and ask them about an IUD and then call them back after the fact to complain about how it hurt like no other, in which they will respond "Girl same".
2. They Are There When Ice Cream Is Needed
Men may come and go but your girls are there for life, sounds super cliché right, but your friends go through the ups and downs of relationships with you. They will be the first to tell you to dumb him, even though you are SO in love, and will also be the first there with a sappy rom com, tissues, and of course the ice cream when you realize you might not marry this guy. Heart break can suck, and if feels like it will last forever, and the truth is us girls can get so invested in love, but having someone there that has not only been through it but is going to help you get through it means the world. That is why when you have those women standing up at your wedding it is so much sweeter because they know what you have been through, and are happy to see you with a keeper.
3. Empowered Women Empower Women
What I hope you have already taken away from this is that women go through the same struggles, but we can be the first to tear each other down. Women play a different game then men, a mind game. Why movies like clueless, bridesmaids, means girls, hit home for so many girls is because that can be our reality. Getting left out, having someone talk about you behind your back, the cattiness, the list can go on. But if you took a moment to support another girl, say hey we are on the same team here, it feels ten times better to build someone up then to do the opposite. It's not a competition to see who has the most likes on instagram, or who wore it best. If a girl gets the guy or your dream job, instead of walking through life being bitter, congratulate her, acknowledge that she might have been through hell and back too. We could use support in a male dominated world.
4. Your Squad Vs The World
While I fully believe in the point above, lets face it, we are not all going to get along. I tell that to the girls I advise in my sorority time and time again. I am currently 23 and I still encounter girls that for one reason or another don't like me and as a result I'm not a huge fan of them. I would love for this to not go on forever but I have a feeling I will continue encountering this for the rest of my life, thats why you have your squad. When someone else is giving you hate, they are still your number one fan pushing you every step of the way. And as girls we understand girl drama. The times that I have encountered another girl not liking me right off the bat has usually been a result of a guy. Wether its just a guy friend I'm close to or someone that I'm dating, the girl feels some kind of way towards me. Can't we just get along? If you bring this up to the guy he might say something alone the lines of, "What, no!" or "She just doesn't know you". But when you tell your girlfriends this they get it. They know that it could be the result of jealousy, you "stealing" the guy, or they are just not a fan. Your girlfriends know this because as much as girls might not want to admit it, we have been the ones giving the hate.
5. Stronger Then Yesterday
Our girls make us stronger. They know our secrets, our insecurities, and what movie and food combo will cheer us up. Sometimes we have to be brutally honest and call each other out, but we also laugh together, experience sadness together, all of which help your friendship become stronger. With a stronger friendship you become stronger too because you won't feel alone anymore. As a said before, girls can be teared down, not only by other girls, but society in general. With strong female friendships, you'll feel empowered, that your emotions and thoughts aren't crazy, and that you can accomplish anything. Your girls believe in you so you should too!
Girls Day: Galentine's Edition
The Icons (Gal Pals and Squad Goals):
Tina Fey & Amy Poehler
Willow & Buffy (Buffy The Vampire Slayer)
Carrie, Samantha, Miranda & Charolette (Sex and The City)
Phoebe, Rachel & Monica (Friends)
Romy & Michelle (Romy and Michelle's High School Reunion)
Kristen Wiig & Maya Rudolph
Dylan, Natalie, & Alex (Charlie's Angels)
Thelma & Lousie
Mia & Lily (The Princess Diaries)
The Movies:
Any of the movies listed above
Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants
Never Been Kissed
Clueless
Bring It On
Legally Blonde
She's The Man
A League Of Their Own
The Craft
Sweet Home Alabama
Pretty Woman
13 Going On 30
Now and Then
The Activities:
The Game Mash (Future Husband)-Can find ones already made or make your own
Paint Night- Grab wine and a canvas, thats all you need... on and paint, unless, is there a way to paint with wine?
Game Night - Cards Against Humanities, Exploding Kittens, Heads Up, or if you are like me and still have old school games from when you were younger, have a retro board game night
Old School Slumber Party- Complete with lots of food (see below), movies, and girl talk. To complete the night build a fort.
Spa Night- Single face mask packets are super cheap so grab a few and any other goodies you want to pamper yourself with
Tasting Party- Like a potluck, everyone brings there own recipe to pass and can even have a wine pairing as well
Cook Together- It can be a big meal or a fun dessert
Swap Night- Bring your favorite book, movie, music, whatever you want the other person to enjoy, then you can have another girls night to return the items
The Food:
Chocolate!
Cookies (heart shaped perhaps)
Popcorn
Nachos
Cheese Board
Chips & Pretzels
Pizza (Make your own)
Crockpot fondue
A bottle of wine
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